This actual email exchange between my darling husband and myself, shows exactly why you should never let your spouse stop you from following your gut.

Our partners don’t need to agree or even like everything we do. Many of us consciously choose not to do things we’d like to, or feel we should – because we don’t want to go through the hurt and hassle of our spouse’s negative response, the tension in the relationship, household, etc.

But you know what? It’s all good! Challenging each other and forcing each other to stick to our own gut can be a good thing. Being forced to separate your self-esteem and opinion of yourself from that of your loved one is a good thing. Growth is always a good thing.

So here’s the email exchange between my husband Ian and I – I’ve put it in order, so you can just start reading from the top. There’s only one email from me, because after his response I mostly ignored him!:

Chris Dufresne – Renowned Psychic, Son of Sylvia Browne

To: Ian Thompson
On 26-Jan-09, at 4:09 PM, Jini Patel Thompson wrote:

I’ve been on a wait-list for this and my appt is tomorrow (Tuesday) sometime between 8:30 – 11:30 am

I’ve booked with Chris Dufresne (I’ve read one of his books and several of Sylvia Browne’s) and have put the $400 charge on the Visa.

If you think that’s steep, Sylvia charges $850 (her wait list is 2 years)

Here’s more info about it:
http://www.sylvia.org/home/readings.cfm

Will be interesting to see what he has to say about our “living” issues and our business questions….

If you have anything specific you’d like me to ask, email it to me today….

wif.

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From: Ian Thompson
Subject: Re: Psychic Reading
Date: January 26, 2009 2:29 PM PST (CA)

you know what I cannot say I agree with spending $400 bucks on a physic reading…it will not put money on the table tomorrow – you had one done 4 years ago who told you what you had to do and it is these type of things that you drive me crazy with…..

we have just hired someone again, we are trying to buy a home in mexico and are sales are not going up and we are going deeper and deeper into the red each month…..

there I have said my piece – but that is why I find you so frustrating to be in business with coz you never stick to what we agree and you always find a good justification and reason for you to do what you want to spend money on.,..and if I say no coz I am in charge of the budgeting etc – you then blame me for stopping you for spending money coz you are the main person who makes the money……

all I can say is it is a waste of money – you know you are destined for great things – it is all in the implementation……..there that is my psychic reading for you and you can now pay me $500 as I know exactly what your future has in store……

ian “what is the point in us having any type of meeting to agree on expenditure” thompson

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From: Ian Thompson
Subject: Re: Psychic Reading
Date: January 27, 2009 12:01 AM PST (CA)

i totally think these type of things are a complete waste of time – specifically as you have already had one four years ago who told you you were going to be really rich and you know what you have to do!!!

but as you are asking – you may as well find out if we

1/ should move to sanata cruz – coz I do!

2/ should we buy in mexico..

3/ is this biz going to make us rich.,..

love me

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From: Ian Thompson
Subject: Re: Psychic Reading
Date: January 27, 2009 7:30 PM PST (CA)

all sorted and thanks for filling me in with your session – great for giving us the clarity we need to keep driving forward in this direction – well done bnz!!!!

I may kick scream and fight but the bottom line is I always come through!!
ian

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So there you have it. You don’t need to enter into dialogue with disapproving friends or family. You can just let your actions and results speak for themselves.

It’s important to remind yourself not to feel offended. Just because someone loves us, doesn’t mean they should agree with us about everything.

Ian and I in Mexico – Yes, Chris said we should go ahead and buy the condo there!

Soar higher,
Jini